20 Characteristics Of A Godly Marriage

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20 Characteristics Of A Godly Marriage:God created women so that they will be a

companion of men, but how can you find your bone your flesh? it is through Christ the

lord, a lion can’t be running while it child will be crawling, if you really want to find your bone

your flesh you need to have a righteous life because it is only God that can give you peaceful

things, you can’t be serving God and marry the enemy of the Lord, you need to live holy to

have a right bone(husband) or a right flesh(wife), you can’t live an ungodly life and yet be

expecting a good suitor or a good bride, if you are someone that grow up with lies and

fornicating, cheating, betraying, just be expecting a bone (husband) or flesh (wife) that has

done all what you have done even worst, but by the time you are a faithful, straight

forward and God fearing person even if you are dealing with a bride or a suitor that is

ungodly, God will always expose them so that you won’t make a big mistake by marrying

her/him, also if you want a good bone(husband) or flesh (wife) don’t go for materials thing,

some ladies will say until her suitor has a car and is his bank account is loaded, and

for men they will say that their bride should be beautiful and have a fair completion, he want

her like this or like that, through all these you can also miss your true bone(husband)

or flesh(wife). Your true bone or flesh might not have a car or a millions in

his account and she might not be that beautiful and not fair in completion, but since

God has bless the union they will have all of what they want in the marriage, the bible says in

Luke1:5-6: “There was in the days of Herod, the king of Judaea, a certain priest named

Zacharias, of the course of Abia: and his wife was of the daughters of Aaron, and her

name was Elisabeth, And they were both righteous before God, walking in all the

commandments and ordinances of the Lord blameless,(KJV). despite barrenness came

to their marriage, but because they lived an of righteousness, and Zacharias went to the

temple to pray and because they lived a life that please God and he sent an angel to tell

him that his pray has been answered, the bible says in Luke 1:7-13: And they had no child,

because that Elisabeth was barren, and they both were now well stricken in years, And it

came to pass, that while he executed the priest’s office before God in the order of his course,

According to the custom of the priest’s office, his lot was to burn incense when he went

into the temple of the Lord, And the whole multitude of the people were praying without

at the time of incense, And there appeared unto him an angel of the Lord standing on the

right side of the altar of incense, And when Zacharias saw him, he was troubled, and fear

fell upon him, But the angel said unto him, Fear not, Zacharias: for thy prayer is heard;

and thy wife Elisabeth shall bear thee a son, and thou shalt call his name John,(KJV).

When you find your bone or your flesh you need to live a righteous life, even if temptation

arise God will always be there to over-come the temptation for you and such union

will always have a solid foundation and Godly children to lay on.

The Characteristics Of A Godly Marriage

  1. Fear of God
  2. Prayer and fasting
  3. Tolerance
  4. Being able to share
  5. Commitment
  6. Praying for a blessed child
  7. Let God Lead
  8. Avoid third party
  9. Look presentable
  10. Truthfulness
  11. Trust
  12. Love
  13. Expressing yourself
  14. Reliable
  15. Avoid being displeased
  16. Endurance
  17. Avoid material things
  18. Being clean
  19. Being industrial
  20. Be of good behavior

1.Fear of God :

In any marital relationship God is compulsory, if God is in the foundation it makes

marriage last, many marriages has last 40, 30, 20 and the foundation of all these marriages

was laid down by God, you should know the relationship between God and the person,

he/she has to be a person that fears God. Illustration giving:

there’s a couple, the husband used to beat his wife over little argument till the

marriage got destroyed. If the man has fear of God he will know that He

doesn’t suppose to hit his wife. The bible says in 1 Peter 3:7:Likewise,

ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife,

as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your

prayers be not hindered (KJV). It’s very compulsory that your partner have the fear

of God, it’s very very important be it a male be it female. The Bible says in Ephesians

4:31-32:Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking,

be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted,

forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you (KJV).

The bible also says in 1 Corinthians 11:3:But I would have you know, that the head of every

man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God (KJV).

2.Prayer and fasting:

Prayer and fasting is important in marriage because every good thing needs prayer

and marriage is a good things because he that find a wife find a good thing. The bible

says in Proverbs 18:22:Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour

of the Lord (KJV). The Bible also says in Proverbs 31:10:Who can find a

virtuous woman? her price is far above rubies (KJV). when

in trial time and good time prayer and fasting must be there. In the journey of

marriage, things will go well but on a long run trials occur, but with prayer and

fasting, you’ll be able to overcome any temptation. As a wife; you need to pray

and fast for your husband and all that concerns his life, also you husband; pray and

fast for your wife and all that concerns her life, yes, temptation may come but with

prayer and fasting, you shall overcome it all. The bible says In Philippians 4:6-7:Be

careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving

let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth

all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus (KJV).

Also in Genesis 2:18:And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be

alone; I will make him an help meet for him (KJV).

3.Tolerance:

In the characteristics of a Godly marriage tolerance is important, as a couple you

need to tolerate each other. The bible says in Colossians 1:11:Strengthene

with all might, according to his glorious power, unto all patience and longsuffering

with joyfulness (KJV).For example: as a wife that your husband doesn’t eat spicy food,

but you like it, what you’ll do is to make his food separately and to do it as per his wish,

as a husband, that your wife doesn’t like you coming home late, you need to tolerate her

and be coming home on time and be calling her if an extra delay occurs, tolerate each other,

so that your journey together will last long. The bible says in Ephesians 4:2:With all lowliness

and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love (KJV). also in Galatians

5:23:Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law (KJV).

4.Being able to share

In mathematics one plus one is two, but in marriage one plus one is one, what belongs

to husband belongs to the wife and what belongs to the wife belongs to the husband

because there are one so they need to be able to share. The bible says in Ecclesiastes 4:9

Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour (KJV).

Let me share with you a story:

There’s a couple, the husband took his wife for a treat, when they were on their way,

the wife told her husband to stop because she want make use of the atm; after she was

done they continued their journey, when they got there, after they finish shopping when they

want to pay, the husband searched for his atm card but he couldn’t find it so he asked his

wife to the bill, the wife said no because the money she withdrew is hers and she wants to

use it, that’s how the husband said that whatever belongs to her belongs to him and

whatever belongs to him belongs to her, the wife said no that what belongs to her

belongs to her alone and what he has belongs to the whole family, while they were still talking,

the husband found the atm card at the back of his pocket so he paid the bill. What the wife

said is wrong because what belongs to her husband belongs to her and what belongs to her

belongs to her husband, any marital relationship that can’t share isn’t good at all and the

marriage may be destroyed because being able to share in marriage, holds the foundation

of marriage. The bible says in Ecclesiastes 4:12:And if one prevail against him, two

shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken (KJV). Jesus said in

Matthew 19:4-6:And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which

made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall

a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one

flesh?Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined

together, let not man put asunder (KJV).

5.Commitment:

Commitment is important in a marital relationship, you need to be committed to each other,

you as a husband you need to create time for your wife and as a wife you need to have

time for your husband, many couples doesn’t have time for each other due to work

and some will just marry for the

sake of marriage never giving each other time. But in progress of giving time to each other,

it will make the marriage hold stronger, celebrate and give each other a treat express your love to

each other. The bible says in Ephesians 5:28-29: So ought men to love their wives as their

own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh;

but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church (KJV). The bible also says in

Colossians 3:18-19:Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the

Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them (KJV).

6.Praying for a blessed child

In the journey of marriage pray for a right child, in some home, you’ll see that the child won’t

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take after both father and mother, the child will be much different from the the couples.

As a couple the you have pray for a blessed child, a child that will give you no pain, a child that

won’t destroy the name that you have built for many years, a child that loves and fear the God.

Let’s look at the story of Jehoram, king of Judah: Jehoram is not like his father King

Jehoshaphat because his father love and abide in God but Jehoram is different, all the

abomination that displeased God and that his father didn’t do, he did it all, including

for a blessed child, a child that will build your name, a child that will give you joy not

killing his own brother; in 2 Chronicles 21 (KJV). As a couple it’s important and you

need to start praying for a blessed child. The bible says in

is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.

Psalm 127:3-5:Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb

Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they

shall speak with the enemies in the gate (KJV). And the bible says Proverbs 20:7:The

just man walketh in his integrity: his children are blessed after him (KJV).

7.Let God Lead:

In any marital relationship God must lead, it’s easy to buy groceries because their are

meant to be consumed, it’s easy to buy clothe cause their meant to be worn but it isn’t

easy to pick a bride or groom out of the blue because that type of marriage doesn’t

last. The bible says in Psalm 37:5:Commit thy way unto the Lord; also in him; and he

shall bring it to pass (KJV). Just because you see someone on social media that doesn’t mean

that the person is right for you, let God lea to choose the right partner, put it in the hands of God

because only God knows who’s the right person, He is a merciful God so He will give a sign that

will make you to know if you’re with the right partner or not. It very very important to let God lead

before you commit yourself to any relationship. The bible says in Psalm 32:8:I will instruct thee

and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye (KJV).

The bible also says in Proverbs 3:5-6:Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto

thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths (KJV).

8.Avoid third party:

Avoiding third party in marriage is important because what God has joined together, let no

man put asunder, so third party in a marriage is like allowing chaos in the journey of

marriage. Many marriages has collapsed today because of third party. The bible says in

Ephesians 4:2-3:With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one

another in love; Endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace (KJV).

For example: A couple that God joined together, the secret between them ought to be a

secret forever. The tongue and the mouth always fight but their are always together, twins

that came from the same womb and were born on the same day, but they still have

different behavior nevertheless couples that grew up from different background, certainly

their behavior, character and personality won’t be the same but the more they stay together,

they will understand each other but you as couple when little argument happened,

settle the situation between yourselves because when you met each other, no third party

were there, allowing third-party makes the relationship breaks. The Bible says in Genesis

2:24:Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife:

and they shall be one flesh (KJV). Also Jesus also said in Mark 10:9:

What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder (KJV).

9.Look presentable:

Your looks matters in marriage because many husband/wife has done adultery due to their

partner’s looks, you need to make sure that you look presentable, many men and woman has

extra marital affair, because of appearance, look presentable for your husband, look presentable

for your wife, look cooperate, presentable and cute for your partner. So that it won’t

give room to adultery. For example: There’s a couple, the husband likes his wife to look

presentable all the time but the wife like to dress off point, the husband tries to correct her many

times but she doesn’t listen; due to this the man started having extra marital affair, when the

wife realized, it’s already too late because her husband has started having extra-marital

affair. Look presentable for each other so that your relationship will last longer. The Bible says in

1 Timothy 2:9:In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with

shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array (KJV).

10.Truthfulness

As a couple you need to be truthful with each other, where there’s truth there’s love, you are

one and you don’t need to hide anything from each other.

There’s a single man that proposed to marry a

lady, but the lady has a child already, so she was scared to tell him the truth. Later on, the man

found out that she had a child and that was how the marriage was cancelled. Let your yes be

yes for each other, in a marital relationship don’t hide the truth from each other, let the

foundation be solid that’s why I said earlier, that God should lead the relationship because if

God lead truthfulness will be in the marriage. The bible says in Ephesians 4:15:But speaking

the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ (KJV).

Jesus said in John 8:32:And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free (KJV).

And He also said in John 17:17:Sanctify them through thy truth: thy word is truth (KJV).

11.Trust

You need to trust each other as a couple, for you to leave your father and mother to leave with

a stranger, trust must be the in the foundation, only when they trust each other that will make

the love grow, for you to build any relationship it should be based on

trust. The Bible says in Ephesians 5:31:For this cause shall a man leave his father and

mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh (KJV). In the

journey of marriage God doesn’t like divorced, by the time you trust who

you’re engage to, when you marry the union will be joyful and peaceful,

God doesn’t want break up/divorce, that why in the foundation

of marriage need to be solid. By the time the relationship is solid, they will be able to face any

trial because they trust each other and that trust will make them stand to together, any marital

relationship that isn’t bases on trust can’t last long. The bible says Proverbs 31:11:The heart

of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil (KJV).

Jesus said in Matthew 19:9:And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife,

except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso

marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery (KJV).

12.Love

Love is one of the most important characteristics in marriage, If there’s no love,

no marriage because love is source of marriage, love made the journey of marriage

smooth, and if the journey of marriage is smooth, the marriage will full of Joy, love,

peace and happiness. The bible says in 1 John 4:18: There is no fear in love; but perfect

love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made

perfect in love (KJV). heaven of that marriage can never be closed,

love is the most sweetest thing in marriage, and for two people that are in love and

are in a marital relationship; they need to build the love so it fade away. The bible also says

in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8:Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity

vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own,

is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;

Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never

faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall

cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away (KJV). If the love that

have for each other fade away, they will start to see the flaws of each other which can

cause the marriage to terminate. The bible says in 1 Corinthians 7:Now concerning the

things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.  Nevertheless,

to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own

. Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto

the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also

the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other,

except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and

come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. But I speak this by

permission, and not of commandment. For I would that all men were even as I myself. But

every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. I say

therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. But if

they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. And unto the

married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But

and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the

husband put away his wife. But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that

believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman

which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not

leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is

sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. But if the

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unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases:

but God hath called us to peace. For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy

husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife? But as God hath

distributed to every man, as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I in

all churches. Is any man called being circumcised? let him not become uncircumcised. Is any

called in uncircumcision? let him not be circumcised. Circumcision is nothing, and

uncircumcision is nothing, but the keeping of the commandments of God. Let every man abide

in the same calling wherein he was called. Art thou called being a servant? care not for it: but if

thou mayest be made free, use it rather. For he that is called in the Lord, being a servant, is the

Lord’s freeman: likewise also he that is called, being free, is Christ’s servant. Ye are bought

with a price; be not ye the servants of men. Brethren, let every man, wherein he is called,

therein abide with God. Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give

my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful. I suppose therefore

that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be. Art thou

bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. But and

if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless

such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you. But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it

remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none; And they that weep, as

though they wept not; and they that rejoice, as though they rejoiced not; and they that buy, as

though they possessed not; And they that use this world, as not abusing it: for the fashion of

this world passeth away. But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth

for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: But he that is married

careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. There is difference also

between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she

may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world,

how she may please her husband. And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a

snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without

distraction. But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she

pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them

marry. Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power

over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well. So

then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth

better. The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead,

she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord. But she is happier if she so

abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God (KJV).

13. Expressing yourself:

Expressing yourself in marriage is important, don’t hide feelings from each other so that you

won’t give chance to devil in the marriage,don’t hold grudges against each other always be

open minded. The bible says in 1 Corinthians 13:13:And now abideth faith, hope, charity,

these three; but the greatest of these is charity (KJV). The bible also says in 1 Corinthians

16:14:Let all your things be done with charity (KJV). Think of it this way; when a husband

and a wife have a misunderstanding and they started beefing each other, if it continues like

these it can close down the heaven of the marriage. The bible says in Any couple that does

in Romans 13:8:Owe no man any thing, but to love one another: for he that loveth another

hath fulfilled the law (KJV). Couples that does these, things never work out for them, because

they aren’t receiving, each other prayers, due to the fact that they’re beefing each other. The

bible says in Ephesians 4:2:With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing

one another in love (KJV). And the bible also says in Colossians 3:14:And above all these

things put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness (KJV).

14.Reliable:

Being reliable in the journey of marriage can’t be ignored, many marriage has been destroyed

due to not being reliable; for example: when couple marry and trial time comes and there are

not there for each other, that isn’t marriage. Illustration giving: There’s a couple that has being

married for a long time but when they got married at first the husband was wealthy, but there

was a trail at his place of work, through out the time that the husband passed through the trial,

the wife was misbehaving; one day she couldn’t hold it anymore and told her husband that she

can’t bare it anymore, her husband told that they married for better for worse, then she isn’t like

that, do she left. Jesus says in Luke 16:18:Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth

another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her

husband committeth adultery (KJV)

This kind of wife isn’t reliable at all; also this couple: they have married for a long time but when

they got married, the wife wasn’t fat but after three children, she just become fat, her husband

started misbehaving at her, when she asked why, her husband told her that he has a family

outside the marriage and he wants to divorce her because he can’t bare her looks; that was the

end of the marriage. If the man was reliable will he divorce her because of size, as I said earlier;

in marriage one plus one is one and it isn’t in the plan of God for anyone to divorce, that’s why

you need to choose a partner that you can rely on because marriage is for better, for worse.

The bible said in Ephesians 5:22-33: Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as

unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church:

and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the

wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also

loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the

washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not

having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord

the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause

shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two

shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the

wife see that she reverence her husband (KJV).

Jesus said in Luke 16:10:He that is faithful in that which is least is faithful also in much:

and he that is unjust in the least is unjust also in much (KJV).

15.Avoid being displeased:

In the journey of marriage anger isn’t good because women are fragile and normally

anger destroys thing , nevertheless between couple. The bible says in Proverbs 12:4:

A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as

rottenness in his bones (KJV). husbands; as the head of the house;

you need a lot of patience to handle your home, a good wife builds her home in peace, as

wife never get angry to your husband, no matter what it’s happening between you as a

couple avoid being displeased. The bible says in Proverbs 14:1:Every wise woman buildeth

her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands (KJV). The bible also says in

Proverbs 15:A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. The tongue

of the wise useth knowledge aright: but the mouth of fools poureth out foolishness. The

eyes of the Lord are in every place, beholding the evil and the good. A wholesome tongue

is a tree of life: but perverseness therein is a breach in the spirit. A fool despiseth his father’s

instruction: but he that regardeth reproof is prudent. In the house of the righteous is much

treasure: but in the revenues of the wicked is trouble. The lips of the wise disperse knowledge:

but the heart of the foolish doeth not so. The sacrifice of the wicked is an abomination to the

Lord: but the prayer of the upright is his delight. The way of the wicked is an abomination

unto the Lord: but he loveth him that followeth after righteousness. Correction is grievous

unto him that forsaketh the way: and he that hateth reproof shall die. Hell and destruction

are before the Lord: how much more then the hearts of the children of men? A scorner

cheerful countenance: but by sorrow of the he byart the spirit is broken. The heart of him that

loveth not one that reproveth him: neither will he go unto the wise. A merry heart maketh a

hath understanding seeketh knowledge: but the mouth of fools feedeth on foolishness. All the

days of the afflicted are evil: but he that is of a merry heart hath a continual feast. Better is

little with the fear of the Lord than great treasure and trouble therewith. Better is a dinner of

herbs where love is, than a stalled ox and hatred therewith. A wrathful man stirreth up strife:

but he that is slow to anger appeaseth strife. The way of the slothful man is as an hedge of

thorns: but the way of the righteous is made plain. A wise son maketh a glad father: but a

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foolish man despiseth his mother. Folly is joy to him that is destitute of wisdom: but a man of

understanding walketh uprightly. Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the

multitude of counsellors they are established. A man hath joy by the answer of his mouth: and

a word spoken in due season, how good is it! The way of life is above to the wise, that he may

depart from hell beneath. The Lord will destroy the house of the proud: but he will establish the

border of the widow. The thoughts of the wicked are an abomination to the Lord: but the words

of the pure are pleasant words. He that is greedy of gain troubleth his own house; but he that

hateth gifts shall live. The heart of the righteous studieth to answer: but the mouth of the

wicked poureth out evil things. The Lord is far from the wicked: but he heareth the prayer of the

righteous. The light of the eyes rejoiceth the heart: and a good report maketh the bones fat.

The ear that heareth the reproof of life abideth among the wise. He that refuseth instruction

despiseth his own soul: but he that heareth reproof getteth understanding. The fear of the Lord

is the instruction of wisdom; and before honour is humility (KJV).

16.Endurance:

In the characteristics of marriage, endurance is very important, as a couple you need to

endure each other, have the strength to stay and last with each other till the end, any

marriage that doesn’t have endurance doesn’t last. Look that the Lord, we will commit

sin do a lot of atrocities but if you run back to him and ask for mercy, He will forgive you

because God endures. The bible says in Colossians 1:11: Strengthened with all might,

according to his glorious power, unto all patience and longsuffering with joyfulness (KJV).

You wife endure your husband and you the husband endure you wife for your relationship to

last to the end. The relationship that doesn’t have endurance destroys and affect the children,

you’ll see some children that is growing up without a father/mother, this isn’t right because

not having endurance in marriage always hurts the children. The bible says in Hebrews

12:1:Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses,

let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run

with patience the race that is set before us (KJV). Jesus said in John 16:33:These things

I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have

tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world (KJV).

17.Avoid material things:

Avoid material things while selecting your partner because all that glitter isn’t gold, yes!

While choosing a partner you’ll have a certain way you want your partner to be, that isn’t bad,

but when you’re adding material things like until he’s wealthy, until she’s beautiful, marriage

doesn’t work like that. The bible says in 1 Timothy 6:17-19:Charge them that are rich in this

world, that they be not highminded, nor trust in uncertain riches, but in the living God, who

giveth us richly all things to enjoy; That they do good, that they be rich in good works, ready

to distribute, willing to communicate; Laying up in store for themselves a good foundation

against the time to come, that they may lay hold on eternal life (KJV). The bible also says in

Proverbs 22:1:A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches, and loving favour

rather than silver and gold (KJV). Many has choose their partner that way, the relationship has

failed today; that’s why I said earlier that you should let God lead. The reason I said let God lead

is because if God lead no matter the obstacles that may occur, God never leave you, but when

you rely on material things, until he’s wealthy and until she is boob and booty, when what

you rely on fail the marriage will also fail. The bible says in Philippians 4:19:But my God

shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus (KJV). But by the

time you marry the right match from

God, all that you seek for will come abundantly because God lead the marriage. The bible says

in Proverbs 11:28:He that trusteth in his riches shall fall; but the righteous shall flourish as

a branch (KJV). The bible also says in Hebrews 13:5:Let your conversation be without

covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never

leave thee, nor forsake thee (KJV).

18.Being clean:

be clean because cleanliness is next to Godliness, most especially women; always kept your

home clean, a home can be broken due to lack of cleanliness, as wife, you need to be clean

and tidy because the husband is the head of the family but as a wife you’re the head of the

house, so woman make your home clean and God will give you grace to that. The Bible says

in 1 Corinthians 6:19-20:What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost

which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a

price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s (KJV).

Jesus said in Matthew 23:26:Thou blind Pharisee, cleanse first that which is within the

cup and platter, that the outside of them may be clean also (KJV).

19.Being Helpful:

Help each other, as wife know how to cook and help your husband out when he needs you,

be there for each other, as a husband help your wife don’t say because you’re the head and leave

it all for your wife, help each other so that your journey of marriage will be smooth. As a wife

know how to cook because home has being broken due to not knowing how to cook, don’t be

lazy, what your husband like to eat most prepare it for him, help to each other so that the love

will keep on blossom. The bible says in 1 Corinthians 11:12:For as the woman is of the man,

even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of God(KJV). The bible also says in

Ephesians 5:28:So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife

loveth himself (KJV).

20.Be of good behavior:

In the characteristics of a Godly marriage, good behavior is very very important because

when a woman is beautiful but doesn’t have good behavior that woman and what has spoiled

is the same thing and for a man that’s handsome and wealthy but no good behavior and

what is rotten are the same. The bible says in Proverbs 31:10-31:Who can find a virtuous

woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so

that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. And is like the merchants’

ships; she bringeth her food from afar. She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to

her household, and a portion to her maidens. She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the

fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. She girdeth her loins with strength, and

strengtheneth her arms. She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out

by night. She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. She stretcheth out

her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of the

snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. She maketh herself

coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. Her husband is known in the gates, when

he sitteth among the elders of the land. She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth

girdles unto the merchant. Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time

to come. She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She

looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children

arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. Many daughters have

done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a

done that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her

own works praise her in the gates (KJV). Good behavior is precious than gold, in these days;

many marriage has been destroyed due to lack of good behavior. For if a wife have a good

behavior and that husband to also have a good behavior they will be peace, happiness, joy and

the kind of child that will come out of such family will be of God behavior, when a woman doesn’t

have good behavior, her home will lack peace, and it will be hard for these kind of union to last.

Let me tell you a real life story: there’s a couple, the husband is very short tempered and so is the

wife, once they start argument, they beat each other to the extent the it’s the neighbors will

separate them after they are done the husband will take his wife to hospital. After a few days

they will be happy like nothing happened but before you know it there will start to fight again.

To the extent that the neighbors keep telling her that if her husband

is angry she should endure but she couldn’t listen, she expose her marriage, allowing third party

to interfere in her marriage, until her husband had a family outside the marriage that she realized

her mistakes. Good behavior matters in the journey of marriage, having a good character

helps marriage last forever. Many are divorced today due to their behavior, have a good

behavior because if you have a good behavior, you’ll be able to make a happy home. The bible

says in Proverbs 10:12:Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins (KJV). The bible

also says in 1 Peter 3:7:Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge,

giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the

grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered (KJV).

Those are the 20 Characteristics of a Godly marriage and I pray into your life that

you shall not marry the wrong partner in Jesus mighty name Amen.


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